Losing my religion

  This video right here...... THIS guy.....THIS message.... Gag reflex activated. Hear me out on this one before casting judgment. This guy in the video has no arms....and no legs. Sad, isn't it? Very sad.  But he is a pawn. A pawn for who? you may be wondering.  Where am I going with this? Well, remember to hear me out before casting stones. This man with no arms and no legs is a poster child for "toxic positivity".  And the church is using him as a brand ambassador for this toxic positivity message.  This is not an indictment on the man. It is an indictment on modern-day Christianity.  If you are unfamiliar with the term, "toxic positivity", I encourage you to look further into it.  Toxic positivity is when positive thinking becomes toxic. It is a worldview and cultural mindset that idealizes "good vibes only".  Toxic positivity is the core philosophy behind the law of attraction, new age "love and light" practices.....and of course, the mo

Gaslighting is all the craze these days. It is used everywhere it seems. Unfortunately, many people are still uneducated on what gaslighting is. As overused as the word is, I think some people are misusing it. Others don't recognize it when it's happening to them.  This article is for the latter. The thing with gaslighting is that by sheer nature of the term, it leads to being misunderstood. Gaslighting is a form of manipulation where the other person says, does, or implies things in a way that makes you think you're crazy.  When you're being gaslighted, it's hard to tell because gaslighting makes you think that it's all in your head. You internalize the abuse or mistreatment as something that isn't actually happening rather than recognizing the source of the abuse.  I am of the opinion that in many situations, people aren't saying to themselves, "I'm going to gaslight him/her" right now. Gaslighting often comes in the form of defensiveness